The Bridal Response to the Mohar

We have already discussed how Jesus went through the Kiddushin, the ceremony and period of sanctification or a time of setting oneself apart for another.  As we said the Kiddushin consists of the Ketubah (marriage contract), Mohar (bridal price), Kiddush (the cup), the seal (The Holy Spirit), and the removal of the veil.  Remember that for us the order is a little different and this post will begin the process of us looking at our part of the Kiddushin.

Our first step within the Kiddushin is our response to Yeshua’s Mohar, His bridal price.  We must accept His acquisition, His payment, in order for it to be applied to our lives.  We see this played out in Genesis when Rebekah had to be willing to accept the price offered for her and go with Abraham’s servant to her husband Isaac. 

Jesus has bought us with a price and it was not a price of money, yet it cost Him everything.  Remember, we have already looked at Isaiah 52:3, which tells us we were redeemed without money. 

In Hebrews 9: 12 & 14-15 it says, “He did not enter by means of the blood of goats and calves; but he entered the Most Holy Place once for all by his own blood, having obtained eternal redemption…How much more, then, will the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself unblemished to God, cleanse our consciences from acts that lead to death, so that we may serve the living God!  For this reason Christ is the mediator of a new covenant, that those who are called may receive the promised eternal inheritance–now that he has died as a ransom to set them free from the sins committed under the first covenant.”(NIV)

When we went through these steps as Yeshua our Messiah went through them we spoke of the communion cup that He gave to His disciples and that it was the third cup, the cup of redemption.  We are all guilty of breaking the first covenant with our sin and so there needed to be a new covenant for everyone, Jew and Gentile alike.  I Peter 1:18-19 told us that He redeemed us with His blood and Romans 3:22-25a again said, “This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.  God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”(NIV) 

We must have faith in His blood.  We must accept His Mohar.  We must believe in the atoning sacrifice of Jesus Christ.  We must believe in Him! 

Galatians 3:14 says, “He redeemed us in order that the blessing given to Abraham might come to the Gentiles through Christ Jesus, so that by faith we might receive the promise of the Spirit.”(NIV)  Also, in Romans 10:13 it says, “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”(NIV)

Therefore, when we accept His Mohar it redeems us and cleanses even the filthiness of our conscious.  We then receive the inheritance promised to those who believe and are saved.  Never forget, that without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness of sin (Hebrews 9:22 & Leviticus 17:11).  So that by faith, by calling on His Name we (both Jew and Gentile) might receive the Spirit.  The Spirit is our seal.  This leads us directly into our next post where we will be discussing The Seal.

The Seal

The final step in the Kiddushin is the giving of the seal.  So let’s do a little background research on a seal. 

The first time we read of a seal is in Genesis 38:18 and it’s not a good situation, none the less it’s there.  It is when Judah says to Tamar, “What pledge should I give you?”  She answered him, “Your seal and its cord, and the staff in your hand”.  So he gave them to her and slept with her, and she became pregnant by him.”(NIV)  This is Judah going to Tamar thinking she is a prostitute.  Not a good situation, but none the less, both of them ancestors of our Lord.  The seal during this time period was probably a small cylinder seal of the type to sign clay documents by rolling them over the clay.  The owner would wear it around his neck on a cord threading through a hole drilled lengthwise through the seal.  So when she says I want the seal and the cord.  She is saying, “I want that thing around your neck.”  And it has his name on it.

We also see the seal in the form of a ring.  In Esther 8:8 Xerxes says to Esther and Mordecai, “Now write another decree in the king’s name in behalf of the Jews as seems best to you, and seal it with the king’s signet ring–for no document written in the king’s name and sealed with his ring can be revoked.”(NIV)  Nothing the king puts his name on and seals can be revoked.  In this passage we once again see the name in the form of a signature tied to a seal. 

So how did Jesus fulfill the giving of the seal?  In John 14:15-18 Jesus is promising the Holy Spirit when He says to His disciples, “If you love me, you will obey what I command.  And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Counselor to be with you forever– the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be in you.  I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.”(NIV)  He’s talking as the Bridegroom all right in this passage.  Think about that first statement for a minute, This is our beloved Bridegroom, our husband saying, “if you love me you will obey me.”  “You will obey my commands.”  What did He command?  To obey His Ketubah, His marriage contract.

The seal, of course, is connected to the name.  Have you ever wondered why we sing songs about The Name?  Not just Jesus, but The Name.  Have you ever wondered about that?  Jesus’ name is connected to this giving of the seal.  Romans 10:9-10 & 13 states, “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.  For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved… for, Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”(NIV) 

Now you may say what’s that have to do with the seal?  Look at Ephesians 1:13-14, “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God’s possession–to the praise of his glory.”(NIV)  In other words, when you heard the Ketubah, believed in your heart and confessed with your mouth, calling on the name of the Lord, you were saved and sealed.  It’s all connected.  It goes back to believing and calling on His name. 

It is about possession!  Why possession?  He purchased us plain and simple, He paid the Mohar.  Those who are “God’s possession to the praise of His glory”, Hallelujah!  Yes, the giving of the seal was a sign of ownership  and security.  The Holy Spirit is our seal. He is a sign of ownership and security.  For the Bridegroom it’s a sign of ownership.  For the Bride, it’s a sign of security.  We are secure in Him.  He has placed His seal on us and therefore He has placed His name on us.

So the Kiddushin is the signing of the Ketubah by witnesses, the Kiddush or the cup, along with the blessing and the unveiling of the Bride along with the Mohar or the payment of the Bridal price and the giving of the seal.  Jews today will give a ring as the seal.  Our seal is the Holy Spirit.

Sealed by His Holy Name,

Vicky

The Kiddushin

The betrothal ceremony is known as the Kiddushin, which is both a ceremony and period of sanctification.  It is a legal ceremony.  It is the legal ceremony.  The betrothal designates the bride and groom only for each other  and forges the connection between them. 

Many of us know that Joseph and Mary were betrothed and would have needed a certificate of divorce in order to break it off.  Why?  Because they were betrothed.  Since this betrothal was a legal action and not just a promise of marriage, as we think of an engagement today, it was legally binding.  Once they went through the kiddushin they are legally husband and wife. 

So let’s learn what all this Kiddushin entails, shall we?  The first part of the Kiddushin, or betrothal ceremony, is the signing of the Ketubah.  The Ketubah is the contract for the bride, the bride that was chosen by the father of the groom. 

In the mind of the Jews, the Torah, the books of Moses, is a marriage contract between God and the people of Israel. 

Now isn’t that interesting?  They see the Old Testament as a marriage contract between God and His people, Israel. 

In Matthew 5:17-18 Jesus says this, “”Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them.  I tell you the truth, until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest letter, not the least stroke of a pen, will by any means disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished.”(NIV) 

He is saying “I did not come to abolish my Ketubah.  I came to fulfill it.  It’s mine. My contract for my bride.  It’s mine!  And I came to fulfill it.  I am under contract to do so.”  You see He came to fulfill His Ketubah.

Consider if Jesus had come to abolish the Law and the Prophets.   He would require a certificate of divorce.  He would be breaking His covenant, unwilling to fulfill His role as the Bridegroom.  If that were the case, there would be no need for the Cross!

Let’s take a look at Jeremiah 31:31-34 where it says, “”The time is coming,” declares the LORD,”when I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel and with the house of Judah.  It will not be like the covenant I made with their forefathers when I took them by the hand to lead them out of Egypt, because they broke my covenant, though I was a husband to them,” declares the LORD.  “This is the covenant I will make with the house of Israel after that time,” declares the LORD.  “I will put my law in their minds and write it on their hearts.  I will be their God, and they will be my people.  No longer will a man teach his neighbor, or a man his brother, saying, `Know the LORD,’ because they will all know me, from the least of them to the greatest,” declares the LORD.  “For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.””(NIV) 

Not only did Jesus come to fulfill His Ketubah, He also came to write a new one.  A new covenant that would be precious and holy.  In John 17:17 Yeshua says this, “Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth.”(NIV)  Now the word “sanctify” means “to make holy”.  It also means “set apart”.  Jesus is asking that we be set apart by our Ketubah, by His word.  Set His Bride apart for Him.  

This new covenant would allow the old covenant to be written on our hearts.  Remember He did not come to abolish but to fulfill.  Also remember that on the road to Emmaus He spoke of how the Old Covenant was really about Him.  The New Covenant would take the Old and put it on the hearts of His people thereby sanctifying them, setting them truly apart for Himself.

The signing of the Ketubah is also very important because it has to be witnessed.  It is not valid if He only signs it Himself.  It has to be signed by witnesses, ie. He has to have co-signers. 

Look at John 5:31-39 where Jesus says, “”If I testify about myself, my testimony is not valid.  There is another who testifies in my favor, and I know that his testimony about me is valid.  You have sent to John and he has testified to the truth.  Not that I accept human testimony; but I mention it that you may be saved.  John was a lamp that burned and gave light, and you chose for a time to enjoy his light.  I have testimony weightier than that of John. For the very work that the Father has given me to finish, and which I am doing, testifies that the Father has sent me.  And the Father who sent me has himself testified concerning me. You have never heard his voice nor seen his form, nor does his word dwell in you, for you do not believe the one he sent.  You diligently study the Scriptures because you think that by them you possess eternal life. These are the Scriptures that testify about me.””(NIV)   (The KJV uses the word witness instead of testify). 

So in the signing of the Ketubah, the witnesses testify in essence saying, “This is who your bridegroom is, this is the one your Ketubah is about.”  As we see in the text, the two witnesses are John the Baptist and the Father Himself. 

John the Baptist was strictly for our benefit.  He is the one, as far as earthly terms are concerned, that helped start the story of the bridegroom.  So, that is the first part of the Kiddushin, the Ketubah or the marriage contract and it’s signing. 

The second part is the Kiddush, you can see where they got the word Kiddushin, from the Kiddush or the cup.  The cup is a prayer of sanctification. 

Remember the Kiddushin is a ceremony and period of sanctification.  The cup is actually a prayer of sanctification.  What’s the cup all about? His blood.  His blood. 

So let’s take a look at the cup.  Exodus 24:6-8 talks about the blood of the covenant, the Old Covenant. The blood of the Old Covenant was the blood of goats and calves. 

But God said that the Old covenant was broken.  So He was going to make a New Covenant.  Oh the precious cup that it will take to bring sanctification. 

Matthew 26:27-29 states, “Then he took the cup, gave thanks and offered it to them, saying, “Drink from it, all of you.  This is my blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins.  I tell you, I will not drink of this fruit of the vine from now on until that day when I drink it anew with you in my Father’s kingdom.””(Matthew 26:27-29 NIV) 

In this passage, Jesus is referring to the third cup of the Passover meal which is called the cup of redemption. 

The 4th cup is the cup of Praise.  Jesus had to fulfill the cup of redemption first.  It was the blood of the Covenant.  His blood is the foundation of the Covenant.  Hebrews 10:29 tells us that the blood of the Covenant sanctifies, it sets apart.

However, within the Passover ceremony – which Yeshua was celebrating that particular night – there is also a cup of sanctification.  Remember, the Kiddushin is a ceremony of sanctification or a setting apart, complete with the cup of sanctification, the Kiddush.  This is the first cup. 

The cup of Plagues – representing the judgement of sin – is the second cup.  The cup of sanctification, the first cup,  is the one in which Jesus says, “Take this and divide it among you.  For I tell you I will not drink again of the fruit of the vine until the kingdom of God comes.”(Luke 22:17-18 NIV)

At this time of the Kiddush, at the taking of the cup, they have the blessing of the cup and it reads like this within the Kiddushin ceremony: 

Holy One of Blessing, Your presence fills creation forming the fruit of the vine.

And then directly following that is the Birakat Yirusim or Betrothal Blessing and it reads:

Praised are you Adonai, Ruler of the Universe, Who has made us holy through your commandments and has commanded us concerning sexual propriety (a warning to the husbands) forbidding women who are merely betrothed, but permitting women who are married to us through Huppah and Kiddushin.  (This is the part I love) Blessed are you Adonai, Who makes Your people Israel holy (sets them apart, makes them holy) through Huppah and Kiddushin.

At this point, finally at this point, we have the actual drinking of the cup.  There is the cup of sanctification with the blessings and after the blessings comes the drinking of the cup or the taking in of that prayer of sanctification, that is only accomplished by His blood. 

And of course, I’m going to say a word at this point about the Bride because it is at this point that the veil comes back.   She has to drink of the cup and so the veil must come back.  Guess what… we have an unveiling and there is someone specific who does it. 

II Corinthians 3:13-16 says, “We are not like Moses, who would put a veil over his face to keep the Israelites from gazing at it while the radiance was fading away.  But their minds were made dull, for to this day the same veil remains when the old covenant is read. It has not been removed, because only in Christ is it taken away.  Even to this day when Moses is read, a veil covers their hearts.  But whenever anyone turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away.”(NIV) 

Jesus removes the veil.  That is His privilege.  And of course, as soon as He died on the cross and shouted, “It is finished.  Father into your hand I commend my spirit.”  The veil at the holy of holies was ripped in half, literally ripped in half.

He removed the veil.  So that when we come to Scripture, when we read our Ketubah, it’s precious to us, it is now a part of us and on our hearts and minds.  It’s our marriage contract that He must fulfill, that He will fulfill.  Not only is it precious to us, but He has also given us the ability to understand it.  The veil no longer covers our hearts.

So we see that the Kiddushin so far includes the signing of the Ketubah, the Kiddush (the cup of sanctification), and the removal of the veil.  We have two more parts of the Kiddushin to look at.  We will do so in two separate posts.

Set Apart for Him,

Vicky

Unity in the Home

Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, 23 for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of the body. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so wives are to submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her with the washing of water by the word. 27 He did this to present the church to Himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or anything like that, but holy and blameless. 28 In the same way, husbands are to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hates his own flesh but provides and cares for it, just as Christ does for the church, 30 since we are members of His body.  31 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.  32 This mystery is profound, but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 To sum up, each one of you is to love his wife as himself, and the wife is to respect her husband.(HCSB)

Many people in our culture take offense at this passage because of how, on the surface and detached from the rest of the book, it would appear to be subjugating women.  That is far from the reality of this passage.  Never does God tell husbands to subjugate or lord it over their wives.  NO Where!  This passage is actually doing the exact opposite.

Imagine for me a human being.  They have a head and a body, correct?  If you detach the head from the body, what happens?  The body dies.  Both are vital and needed.  Remember that Paul has already, back in chapter one, said that the Messiah is the head of the church, His body.  Marriage here in chapter five is being used to illustrate a much larger truth than just how husbands and wives are to live with each other.

I want to deal with the specific issue of husbands and wives for a minute before moving on to the bigger picture.  Notice what each are called to do.  The wife is to respect her husband.  She is to submit to her head.  She needs him.  To not respect is to say she does not need him and to effectually cut him off.  She would be killing herself and him in the process.

Yes, she is submitting to the needs of her husband, his need for respect.  This is a huge issue for men and it is the way God made them to be.  It is their emotional blood flow, so to speak.  They have a need for their wife to respect them because for them it is the wife saying, “I need you”.  She is submitting to his needs above her own.  Paul tells us that as believers we should all think of each other as more important than ourselves.(Phil. 2:3)  Obeying this mandate as a wife is doing nothing more than obeying the one in Philippians as a believer.

Next, God tells the husband to love his wife.  Why?  Because that is her need, her emotional blood flow.  In order to live and thrive a wife requires love.  It is how God made her.  It is the husband saying, “I desire you in my life, in every area of my life.  You are wanted”.  In this the husband is to submit to her need above his own.  Otherwise, he would be cutting off his own body and thereby killing himself.

In a marriage there must be this unity and this passage gives the way that is achieved.  He, the head, belongs to the body and she, the body, belongs to the head.  If they are going to survive they need each other and so each must be sure to give the other what the other requires to survive, respect or love.  If this is done then the head and body function together with much greater ease and unity.  In so doing they each survive and thrive.

That leads us to what God is illustrating to us.  This relationship is what He wishes to have with His people.  This is the story of the Bridegroom and the Bride.  Yeshua is our Bridegroom and we who put our faith in Him, who follow Him, are His Bride.  According to this passage, this is a profound mystery.  Notice that our oneness with each other is called the mystery in Ephesians and our oneness with Him is called a profound mystery.  This is beyond anything we could have thought of or imagined.(Chapter 3)  

That is why it is so important to preserve the true picture of marriage because it speaks of the relationship He desires with us.  To change the picture is to attempt to tarnish or twist the reality.  For the last 50 years our culture has seen deliberate distortions and downplay of marriage.

Most prominently today, our culture, along with the enemy’s help in deceiving our culture, is beginning to accept more and more the distortion and calling it good. 

Marriage is and from the beginning has been between a man and a woman, but our culture is debating redefining marriage to include being between a man and a man or a woman and a woman.  What picture does that give of God?  It is not two bridegrooms or two brides that offer us the accurate picture of the relationship God wants with us. 

I am not saying that people in these relationships realize what they are saying, but to be sure the enemy does and he seeks to distort and twist all God wants for us.  And to be sure God knows what it says, that is why this particular sin is called an abomination. 

The enemy wants people to concentrate on their
“rights” to be happy and purposefully turns them away from what the reality of what they are doing says about God.  That is why it is called deception. Eve sinned based on deception, but it was still sin. 

The first relationship we see in Scripture is marriage of one man and one woman.  The man represents the Son of God (Luke calls Adam the son of God) and Eve represents the Bride of Christ, the Bride of the Son.  In the end we see the marriage of the Lamb and His Bride.  One is the picture of the other and to distort and twist it into anything else is the enemy’s attempt to distort and twist what it represents, what it will be in the end. 

It is for this reason the church must hold the line on true marriage because we must insist on reflecting the light of the true relationship God wants with His people.  Anything else is from the realm of darkness and based on deception. 

Bride of Christ – Hold the Line, no one said it would be easy to insist on the accurate picture to a world who desperately needs our Bridegroom when all it seems to want to do is reject Him.  

Our Bridegroom wishes to have a spotless Bride, one without wrinkles or blemishes.  He paid for us with His own blood.  It is the least we can do to hold tight to His promise as His bride.  One day He will come for us and call us to Himself.

This picture is a profound mystery. 

Vicky